• Velicia

All Men Are Self-Made; Only The Successful Admit it.


I don't know about you, but that just hit me over the head with a BIG ASS brick. My life is where it is, not due to some weird circumstances, a bad childhood, horrible parenting, or a simple string of bad luck--NOPE, it's because of me and only me. And for one reason only:


Why has this taken me 49 years and 330 days to realize this? It finally hit me, that everything is energy. We are all attracting everything that comes into our experience. The good experiences and the bad experiences. The good lovers, the bad breaks, the annoying ass co-workers, and even winning the lottery--you created that!

And that makes me realize, that I've been creating some horrible experiences. But the good news, I can choose to learn from these realities and move on to creating something special...something that makes me very happy. Because what you go through...makes you grow-the-hell-up!

So, if you aren't where you want to be financially, physically, or even emotionally, know this: it's not the economy's fault, it's not that food is full of sugar and empty calories or that some asshole broke your heart--none of that matters. Your life is in the shape it is, only because you have set it up that way and you have chosen to deliberately create this reality. In other words, you haven't figured out your career yet and/or aren't bothering to better yourself and wonder why you're broke. You overeat, eat junk food and then lay around all day and not work out and wonder why you're 50 lbs overweight. And you keep laying up with a dude who's not treating you right; sleeping with every Tonya, Tanisha and Tammy in town. And you wonder why you keep a yeast infection, cry daily or spend most Friday nights alone.

But no more!

Let's all (including me), choose to create better realities.

Ok, so how do we begin?

We begin with choosing better thoughts.

We start to act as if.

I have made a list of things I want to improve in my life and every day I write in my journal "thank you's" to these things; and here's the most important part: I use the past tense. I say for instance, "I am so happy now that [fill in the blank]. This is me creating my own reality, as if all my desires have ALREADY COME TO PASS. In other words--suspend reality. Use your imagination for a better future, besides dreaming of Idris Elba, but to imagine your life better in the areas of your choice. And repeat three (3) times daily. Oh, don't roll your eyes at the three times. Um excuse me, you look at your phone 3 times in 30 seconds! So, as you look at your phone, why not make that list your screensaver.

If you don't take the time to consciously create your reality, subsequently your future will tell on you. Time will tell all and time waits for no man. Time will never beg you to keep up. The "whens" of change will blow strong and it's up to you WHEN you get started to living your best life.

Know that you're not alone. I'm on this journey with you. There's a part of me that is still unsettled. I'm still not where I want to be; even though I've achieved a lot. I'm not living that life I've re-lived over and over again in my head. I've caught glimpses...but never the fullness of that life. And as we hurdle seemingly at warp speed to 2020 (my gawd), I'm taking total control over my thoughts. Notice I did not say over my life. God and the universe got that. Every time I snatch the wheels from either one, ooh honey, I can't tell you how they not so gently reminded me, that what I want isn't necessarily the best thing; and they ripped that wheel right outta my hands, before I drove us off a cliff. And I'm always grateful for them saving my life.

Moreover, this realization comes in hindsight. You never know what's the best thang for you, until some time has passed. Funny how that works. But that's where the funny business stops. I don't know about you, but I am so damn ready for a better life. I'm sorry, Oprah, Hoda and Beyonce can't be the only ones who seem to get to have it all. Hell no--I"m joining that happy, rich woman club next year. Even If I must break the freakin' doors down.


Next year, I will proudly proclaim: "I am self-made!"

With a big-ass grin on my face😁...won't you join me?


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